Formal Weddings in South Carolina

Formal weddings in South Carolina done in southern good taste glamour. If you've always dreamed of this kind of wedding, we've got ideas and tips for creating the ultimate class act. One word of advice: Don't fret if you're working with a champagne taste on a small budget. Focus on important aspects like the site, the entertainment, and what you're wearing, and let the rest fall formally into place.

THE ANNOUNCEMENT

The most classic invitation is engraved, written in black ink on white, ecru, or ivory paper. It is considered more formal and traditional to not include a reply card, but since many of today's wedding guests aren't aware that they're supposed to sit down and write a formal acceptance note, you'll probably be better off using them. Have a calligrapher hand-address all the invitations. You can indicate "White Tie," "Black Tie," or "Black Tie Optional" on your invitation to make it clear to your guests that now's the time to dust off (or rent) some formalwear.

THE SETTING

Your venue will set the scene. Locate a historic estate (There are plenty in Beaufort, Hilton Head, and Savannah), an elegant club, a ballroom. Be sure there is plenty of room to dance. When it comes to decor, candlelight is key; if your reception location has high ceilings, you may want to use tall candelabra with long tapers to illuminate the room without making it impossible to see others across the table. Fancy bamboo-look reception chairs are naturals for a formal affair. If you use folding chairs, choose subtle white or black ones instead of the thick, heavy metal kind. If you can swing it, choose seat cushions or tablecloth overlays in rich fabrics. For flowers, use roses -- red or white.

THE LOOK

When it comes to gown elegance, less is more. Opt for the simple, clean design of an A-line. However, one acceptable area of apparel excess is in the train. Remember that the more formal you go gown-wise, the longer it can become. You might choose a chapel-length train, flowing 3 1/2- to 4 1/2-feet from your waist, or a cathedral-length train, which extends 6 1/2- to 7 1/2-feet. (For a formal daytime wedding, a shorter train is also appropriate.) Naturally you'll want to bustle up a long train during the reception. Alternatively, a ball gown with a full tulle, silk, or satin skirt is a perfect formal look sans train.

A long tulle veil (in a length that complements your train) with a blusher (the part that goes over the bride's face as she advances down the aisle) adds to the drama. Also keep in mind that veils can be designed for removal at the reception. If you don't care to wear a veil at all, an updo is your best bet, especially when worn with a tiara, a beaded comb, silk flowers, or a wreath of fresh flowers. For the finishing touch, try wearing elbow-length gloves if you have a sleeveless gown, or carry a silk, tulle, or velvet wrap.

THE FORMALWEAR

For an evening wedding, the groom may wear a tuxedo (black tie) or tails (white tie). Another option is the white tuxedo jacket (very James Bond). During the day, traditional formalwear is a morning coat: a gray or charcoal tailcoat worn with a vest or waistcoat and ascot instead of a bow tie and cummerbund.

Technically, tuxedos shouldn't be worn before 6 p.m., but that rule no longer holds. If the reception begins around or after 6 p.m., it's okay to wear a tux to a ceremony that starts in the afternoon. If the groom has several black-tie events in his future (and what gentleman doesn't?), he may want to consider purchasing his own tuxedo; alternatively, renting is fine too.

THE FARE

At the cocktail party of a formal event, the operative word is cocktail. Have your bartender serve a classic martini, or maybe an updated version preferred by the two of you. A seated multi-course meal (appetizer, salad, sorbet/fish course, entree, cake/dessert, coffee) is the most formal option. If you want to have people mingle a little, a dessert buffet can loosen things up.

Elegant china is a must. If you want to go all out, serve caviar and oysters, and have different fine wines and/or champagnes for every course. You may even want to have a cheese course with cordials. If you're not into a full dinner, try a simple cocktail reception, with drinks, passed hors d'oeuvres, and maybe a jazz combo or string trio as entertainment.

THE MUSIC

The ultimate formal entertainment: a danceable and entire-crowd-pleasing standards band. A string orchestra provides superb background music, while inspiring a bit of ballroom dancing. Nothing's more elegant than a dance floor packed with floating, graceful couples. Think Sinatra ("I've Got the World on a String"), Cole Porter ("Let's Do It, Let's Fall in Love"), the big band orchestra sound of Benny Goodman or Count Basie, even the tunes of crooners like Tony Bennett and Harry Connick Jr. Test-drive a few favorite songs with some new CDs a few months beforehand, and practice the new dance moves you've learned in private before you make the grand entrance for your first dance.

THE GRATITUDE

Your sophisticated style should touch everything, right down to the gifts you give your guests and the bridal party. For your groomsmen and bridesmaids, something to wear with their wedding attire always scores big points. Consider monogrammed silver cuff links or cigar holders for the men, and pearl earrings or a lovely engraved necklace for the ladies. Guests will appreciate being spoiled with stylish favors such as silver dragees, high-style cigars, a split of champagne, or delectable chocolate truffles.

THE LASTING IMPRESSION

Once your glamorous night comes to a close, you'll want to make your getaway in a memorable mobile. (Yes, we know, parting is such sweet sorrow.) Exit amid sparklers or bubbles and as guests bid you adieu and marvel at your amazing good taste, languidly climb into the backseat of a classic car such as a Rolls-Royce or a Bentley. Don't forget to wave graciously to the crowd.